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How do you help a child when mom goes back to work?

After being off for 1 year with my 3rd baby I have returned back to work and my middle child is not adjusting to our nanny? She is very sad and angry a lot of the time. She is also crying uncontrollably whenever I leave. What are we to do?

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avatarJenny.eduguide
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Financial Aid for College, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Study Skills and Academic StrategiesTop 5 in 12 Topics		 I guess the first question I would ask myself is: Is the problem with you working or is it with your nanny? If you think the issue is with the nanny, then change nannies quickly. I know that is a huge inconvenience, but perhaps your child is trying to tell you something.

I do know that when I went to work full-time, my youngest was in preschool and he had a really hard time dealing with it. Every night when I would tuck him in, he'd cry uncontrollable and tell me how much he missed me and beg me to sleep with him. It was awful and just heartbreaking.

I stayed firm and he adjusted, but it still isn't easy for him. I do know that when he told me once that he didn't like his daycare, I asked him why and he told me that the sitter made him behave. I told him that wasn't a reason for changing daycares and that I liked it when he behaved.

Another time, my oldest daughter explained that she didn't like our current sitter because she left the baby to cry in his crib all the time and wouldn't even let my daughter go in and try to calm him. That alerted me and we switched sitters shortly after that.

I guess my only real advice is listen to your instincts and tough it out. It will get easier, I just can't tell you how soon.
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