Almost half of today's intergenerational households counted are headed by a grandparent, with no parent present.
A parent may be suddenly removed from the family dynamic for many reasons, including death, divorce or being unfit to parent. Since this situation almost always comes about as a result of a tragedy, it is important for everyone to have support and guidance during the transition.
The best start to any new living arrangement is honest communication, especially with children.
In age appropriate language, take the time to explain why Mom and/or Dad are gone, when and if they are expected to be back, visiting arrangements or any other extenuating circumstances. Kids can tell when information is being distorted or held back, and resent it, regardless of their age maturity.
Be prepared to tackle difficult issues with open, honest answers, even if that answer is, "I don't know."
For grandparents taking on a new role, it's important to set out guidelines and expectations right from the start, and to maintain some semblance of normality in schedules, activities, rules and standards. Lead by example and absorb the kids into your daily routines, instead of uprooting all that is familiar to everyone in hopes of starting all over without Mom or Dad.
There are several resources available to seniors with grandchildren to look after. Check with local nonprofits or on the Internet.
Children exposed to multigenerational living benefit from the wisdom, guidance and unconditional love provided in a close relationship with their grandparents. By having them under the same roof, access is easy and natural, and young people grow up with an inherent respect for their elders.
Shelly Lawson is a freelance writer.