1. Make an appointment to meet and talk. 
  2. If you know others who feel the way you do, consider going to the teacher together.
  3. Think through what you want to say before you go into your meeting with the teacher.
  4. Choose your words carefully for the most productive parent-teacher communication.
  5. Don’t expect the teacher to do all of the work or come up with all of the answers.
  6. Be diplomatic, tactful, and respectful.
  7. Focus on what you need, not on what you think the teacher is doing wrong.
  8. Don’t forget to listen.
  9. Bring your sense of humor.
  10. If your meeting isn’t the success you hoped it would be, move up a level and try talking to the principal. Follow steps 1-10 again. Keep moving up until you get some answers.

 

Source:The Survival Guide For Parents of Gifted Kids