School’s out, summer’s here, and that means it’s time to get out The Endless Chore Game.
Chores are not popular at my house—especially kids’ chores. Nobody looks forward to them. Nobody appreciates the trouble I take to make sure everyone has chores to do that will build character (“Why do I have to clean the bathroom again? I did my chores last week!” “Because you did a terrible job and you need more practice.”) Nobody thanks me for assigning chores that are a good fit for them. (“You told me I did a great job on the bathroom this week, so why do I have to do it again?” “You’re so good at it I’ve decided to make it your regular chore.”)
Chore lists are not easy to put together. By the second or third week of summer, I’ve lost all my zeal for assigning things that actually need doing like washing windows and weeding the garden. I’ve settled for assigning things that can be done without direct supervision like answering the phone or checking the mailbox.
Chores are not contagious. My children see me doing chores all the time, so how come they’re not patterning themselves after me? If you’re a reader, your child will most likely be a reader, too. If you’re athletically inclined, it’s a cinch that at least one of your children will embrace sports. You’d think that watching me work like a dog would induce my children to sweat buckets in order to be just like me, but it hasn’t worked out that way.
A few years ago, desperate at being faced with another long summer arguing about chores, I invented The Endless Chore Game. The Endless Chore Game has no winners or losers. It’s called “endless” because it has no start and no finish. Your game piece just goes around and around the path until summer is over, and it’s time to put the game away.
Here’s how the game works. I make a board with a circular path on it divided into about forty squares, and I write a different chore on each square. These chores can be simple and boring like scouring the kitchen sink or more complex and interesting like making dessert for six people for less than five dollars. The finished board looks like a Candyland game board except that the images are more sinister. Instead of kids climbing ice-cream mountains and playing under gumdrop rainbows, I draw pictures of kids mowing the lawn and washing dishes and sweeping floors. In the corner on the upper right is a shadowy adult figure, arms crossed, tapping her foot. I think it sets the mood.
I put the board on the refrigerator door, and the kids use magnets for game pieces. Every day during the summer, they take turns rolling dice and moving their pieces to find out what chores they have to do. The game is not completely grim. The board has a few free spaces with fun stuff like cloud watching, pudding construction, and singing “Old MacDonald Had a Farm” on the porch in three-part harmony.
This will be our family’s third year of playing The Endless Chore Game. Every summer I modify the rules a little bit. For instance, you’re not allowed to reverse direction on the board any more. This keeps certain resourceful players from moving back and forth between free spaces for the duration of the game, thereby getting far fewer chores than everyone else. And I’m toying with the idea of assigning points to certain chores so that if you land on the Paint the Garage square, you don’t have to roll again for a week.
Some members of the family enjoy games so much they leap downstairs every morning and play The Endless Chore Game first thing. I think it’s the thrill of knowing you might get lucky and have no chores at all for the day, almost like a mini-vacation. Some family members are less enthusiastic, suspecting that The Endless Chore Game is not really a game at all but just a way for a certain parent to get out of having to face unpleasant realities, specifically being unpopular, in the name of character building.
I love The Endless Chore Game. I even play it, although, technically, I do chores whether or not I roll the dice first. I don’t play because I lack a list of things that need to be done. There will always be chores in my life. I will always feel obligated to do them and to insist that my kids know how to do them. Chores are required. The Endless Chore Game just makes them more interesting. All right, there’s something else. The truth is, I’m still shooting for the Sing “Old MacDonald Had a Farm” on the Porch square, and I have a feeling this might be my lucky summer.
Marie Marfia is a sometime-blogger, all-the-time-worrier, work-at-home-graphic-designer living in Jacksonville--Florida's first coast. She writes about her family because they're the ones she cares about most. Her website is http://www.dancingmac.com.