“I tried to be bold and introduce myself to the people around me. There is always that awkwardness at first, but you can ask questions such as, ‘What year are you? Where are you from? What is your major?’ … It is important to reach out to others in class because you are going to be around these people for an entire semester. It helps you look forward to class when you have someone you can count on to sit by and work with.”
~Mary Lent, Sophomore, Universiity of Michigan
Okay, some things never change. The same advice parents dished out in high school rings true in college. Whom you hang around with directly affects your grade point average and a lot more. So avoid the marijuana majors. Find people who share your goals — and the study habits you want to develop. Here are a few places to start.
- Join at least one campus organization. It may sound counterproductive to the study-centric college life, but unhappy, lonely students are more likely to drop out. Make an effort to get to know people. Know that other students are doing the same. Joining an organization connects you to campus, which will help you stay and graduate. If you’re commuting or transferring, this is especially important. Consider it a good investment in building a safety net and a springboard to everything from party invites to a cool internship connection.
- Volunteer. Ask if your campus has a community service office and info on alternative spring breaks. Most advisers recommend this for “résumé building.” But what better way to meet good people? College students are volunteering in record numbers. Join them, help others, and feel better about yourself all the way around.
- Think global, socialize local. Globalization is requiring everyone to open up to the rest of the world. You can do this by studying a new language or studying abroad. But an easier way is to get to know a foreign classmate. It’s a great way to learn about different cultures. Plus hearing about the challenges they face, such as homesickness,may help put your own worries in perspective.
- Hit the gym. Regular exercise makes you happier and smarter. That’s just a fact. It even helps you sleep better, which is very important if your roommate snores. So plan on getting at least 30 minutes of cardio exercise three times per week. Most campuses have recreation centers that students can use for free or dirt-cheap; some offer low-rate classes. It’s a great place to meet other people who are committed to taking care of themselves. Of course, just inviting other people to join you for a walk, a run or a bit of Frisbee has also started many lasting friendships.
- Be a good roommate. You don’t need to be friends with your roommate. You don’t even have to always agree. You just need to be honest with each other about what you don’t like and work out ways of respecting each other’s preferences. But friendship is a nice bonus that can make all of that easier. Start by asking them what a great roommate would be like.
- Say your prayers. If there’s a spiritual side to your life, you may find it valuable to get through the challenges of college. Connecting with others who share your beliefs can help you weather any storm.