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what can i do for her

she says she has been cutting herself for a very long time.she is adopted and her adopted parents do not bother with her so im holding the bag right now and dont know what to do.my son is bi polar and im worried she might be,and there moving in with each other in a couple of days and im reaaly worried the two of them together wont mix

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avatarAnonymous I guess the first thing that I would try to do is convince her to see a counselor of some kind. In almost every city there is free counseling available. Also, I know that my insurance covers a huge percentage of counseling, she could look into that also.
I would start by pointing out to her that even though the cutting seems like it is helping her, it isn't. In hurting herself, she is hurting the people who love her, like you and your son. Even if she doesn't think she is worth seeking help for, she may be convinced to do it for the people she cares about.
While I have no experience with this firsthand and strongly suggest you seek a counselor for advice on how to deal with this, I wish you much luck.
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avatarAnonymous As you probably already know because of your son, bipolar is a very treatable disease. But only a trained professional can accurately diagnose any form of mental health disorder.

Cutting herself is a serious behavior that is sadly common in women. I've read that it's a way to put pain in a place that the person controls herself. But it is behavior that should be treated seriously, and by a professional. It's a symptom of underlying problems, and those problems must be identified and dealt with.

These two situations really demand professional help. The most loving and caring thing you can do for her is to help her get the help she clearly needs. Sometimes, a troubled person will take action to get professional help when they realize they are loved and that people care about them. It sounds as if you care a lot about this young woman - let her know that, and tell her you'll help her. That's a good first step.

Good luck to this troubled young woman.

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Aunt to a bipolar niece
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