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avatarstuart
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i am 36 yaers old i have a girl 14 and a boyturning 3 in march

me and my son have visitation 2 days a week 6 hours a day which iwould like more time my x dont trust me to care for him but she is so aggressive with him she has a short temperbut he is a really good well mannered boy for his age .but because i have imsomnia and i take meds for it and it helps but she took me to court and the judge saidi would loose time with him if i couldnt stop taking the meds but i f i can,t sleep for days at a timeis that safe for my child.ihave wewnt for 14 days without closing my eyes .and if i give up the only thing that allows me to functionon a day today basis how can icare for my son . the judge said that because the meds. made me grogy in the morning i now get him at 12;00but insmnia isnt something that can be ignored.it has to be treated but if i do nt do what the judge said i could loose my son and to be honest thats what my x- wanted allalongbut i love my son with all my heart. my dr. said she cant do this to me but im sodespart for some answersplease anyone with advice or literature please contact me god bless.

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avatarKathy
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Top 5 in: Depression and Mental Health, Home Learning and Field Trips, Learning Disabilities and Special NeedsTop 5 in 3 Topics		 Dear Stuart,
It sounds like you are in a very tough situation. Let me make sure I understand your problem: you want to keep seeing your son, maybe even get to see him more, and to do that you are being ordered to stop taking medicine that you feel is beneficial. You are concerned about your health and the health of your son when you are with him if you stop taking the medicine.

I would suggest you do a few things. First of all, make another appointment with your Doctor. Discuss your condition and make sure you understand it. Is your insomnia related to other circumstances in your life? If so, what can you do to fix or change those circumstances? Are you receiving therapy to help you work through those issues or can you begin therapy? Does you Doctor feel that you will eventually recover from your insomnia?
Then make a plan with your Doctor that either focuses on recovery so that you eventually reach a point where you can sleep, or a plan that helps you learn to live with this situation.
Next I would suggest that you contact Friend of the Court and make an appointment to discuss this issue in person. Do not have this discussion over the phone. You will better demonstrate your commitment to your son by going in person. This will be easier to do for you if you are already in good standing with them.( For instance do you pay your child support and honor the guidelines of your visitation?) If you are not in good standing with Friend of the Court you will also need to address these issues in your discussion. Tell them where you have been negligent and what you plan to improve going forward. Then address your current situation. Make sure they have proof from your Doctor of your medical situation. Let them know how you plan to deal with this issue: What steps you are taking. What your support system is. And who will be helping to monitor your progress.
I believe you will need to demonstrate that you care enough about your son to work on issues in your life that have the potential to impact him negatively. This may take several meetings and periods of evaluation. Although this will be extremely difficult for you, try to not to focus at all on your ex-wife. Let her work through her own issues. Any time or energy you spend needs to be spent on getting yourself in a place where you can continue to see your son.
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