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My sons are twins in 4th grade in catholic school and the teachers want to separate them. Do I have a say?



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Top 5 in: Choosing College, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Summer Learning and Camps, Teens and Jobs, Transitions and Readiness, Motivating StudentsTop 5 in 16 Topics		 I don't have twins, so I surfed the web a bit (I googled "separating twins in school") and discovered that this is a huge issue for both parents and schools. Some schools have strict policies about twins, others work with parents on a case by case basis.

What I read said that there is no research-based reason to separate twins and that it is best to handle the situation based on the twins and their personalities and social and educational needs. One article suggested that younger kids (preschool through third grade) might do best together and then begin separating them gradually after that.

As a parent, I would want a say in my children's placement. Is this a beginning of school year decision, or is this a mid-year change of course? Are they being disruptive as a "twin team"? Is one helping the other so much that that twin is not learning appropriately? You need to find out why the school wants to separate them--do they have a legitimate reason or is it a knee-jerk decision?

A couple of good discussions on the subject can be found here: www.twinstuff.com/schoolseparation.htm and at ceep.crc.uiuc.edu/poptopics/twins.html



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Parents and Schools # of Thumbs Up Received (3)		 As a parent paying tuition, I would think you would have a say in the type of environment your sons would thrive in. But, I would encourage you to talk to the teachers and the principal and listen to the reasons for their request. If their points are valid, you may want to consider their request. However, if you absolutely don't agree with their reasons and you have other strong reasons for keeping your boys together, then push the issue further.
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