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My 3 year old son is potty trained and has been for about a year. He deliberately stood in his room and peed his pants! What should I do??

He is a good boy. WE have loved every moment of raising him. But lately he has been acting mean toward his older sisters and yelling alot. And then recently peed his pants. We arent sure what to do.

Question applies to ages: 3

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avatarJenny.eduguide
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Financial Aid for College, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Study Skills and Academic StrategiesTop 5 in 12 Topics		 I'm sorry, but I completely disagree with the advice given by the other two. When it comes to spanking, how can you justify it when you are talking about potty training?

Honestly, how do you know for sure that it was "deliberate?" You could ask the child if he did it on purpose, but does he even know what that means? My guess is that he was so involved in whatever it was that he was doing, he didn't notice he had to go until it was too late.

It won't be the last accident he has and that's just how you should treat it - like an accident. Tell him it is OK and everyone has accidents. Treat it like it was no big deal and explain that he just has to try harder to make it to the potty next time and praise him when he does.

As far as yelling and being mean goes, sounds to me like he needs a lot of time-outs and follow-through. Good luck.
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avatarLizInHolt
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Top 5 in: Career Training, Choosing College, Depression and Mental Health, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Health and Wellness, Home Learning and Field Trips, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Setting Goals and Getting Motivated, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Students' Civil RightsTop 5 in 18 Topics		 Hitting a child isn't the solution for anything. I agree with Jenny that treating this like an accident is the best way to go.

You're connecting this accident with his behavior towards his sisters and they may have nothing to do with one another. A 3-year-old can't verbalize his frustration or fears very well, and he may simply be having some sibling rivalry feelings that are causing him to be mean to his sisters. Consistently treat the yelling as unacceptable..."Use your inside voice." "When you yell like that, it's hard for me to understand what you want." Don't yell back at him, since that just teaches him that yelling is OK. Try to get him to tell you what he's feeling, maybe by suggesting a couple of things: "Are you feeling angry with your sister? What's making you feel that way?"

He's at such an in-between age where all the words and ways to describe things just aren't there yet, which is frustrating all by itself. Think how frustrated you probably become when someone doesn't "get" what you're trying to tell them, and you have adult coping skills! He doesn't, and the only way he knows how to deal with frustration is to act out. Keep showing him a better way! Good luck to you!
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avatarReggie Porter
# of Thumbs Up Received (0)		 my advice for you is to whoop his butt cause he is potty trained and he should know that when he hjas to use the restroom he needs to go to the restroom
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avatarmontezpiggue
# of Thumbs Up Received (0)		 you should have told him that what he did was wrong and wroop him but make sure that u really potty trained him
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