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my son is 5 and he was caught with another girl -she had her pants down



Question applies to ages: 5, 6

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avatarElizabeth.Johns
# of Thumbs Up Received (76)		 5 and 6 year old children are curious beings and that includes figuring out just how boys and girls are different. EduGuide has this article by noted pediatrician T. Berry Brazelton on this very topic: Relationships-and-Sexuality-Why-Is-My-Child-So-Cur

I would recommend that you don't freak out over the incident and also that you not shame or make your son feel bad about what was happening. Reassure him that it's okay to be curious about people's bodies, but explain that it's not considered polite to look at other people's private parts, nor for him to show his to other people.

If your son is curious, you can find books at the library that help explain all about the human body at a 5 year old level. Remember, this will be one of many chats you have about bodies and sexuality and you can help set the tone for how your child views his own and other's bodies by the way you handle the conversation.

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avatarLizInHolt
# of Thumbs Up Received (77)		 This is very normal and common in kids this age. They are curious and by now, know that boys and girls are made differently. As the previous person, Elizabeth, said, don't shame him or make him feel it's dirty or nasty.

Explain that both boys and girls have parts of their bodies that are considered private - he may not know what "private" means yet, so explain that to him. Remind him that you don't allow him to be naked in public, and that's the reason - some parts of our bodies aren't for viewing by everyone.

But don't worry that your son and his friend did this - it's perfectly normal and natural and just about every kid gets curious about the differences somewhere along the line!
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