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avatar Anonymous

how normal is it for a mother to put her 21 year old son to bed nightly, scratch his back and tuck him in?



Question applies to ages: 18

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avatarElizabeth.Johns
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I have an 18 year old son, and I stopping putting him to bed years ago. For one thing, most nights he's up later than I am. I don't even tuck in my 16 and 13 year old sons--just give them a hug and a kiss and a "see you in the morning."

I think that a mom who still tucks in her 21 year old is not behaving toward her child in an age-appropriate manner. He is an adult; not a toddler. Sure, we parents want to let our kids know that we love them, but that behavior steps beyond the bounds.

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avatarBridgette
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Not knowing all the details, I would be highly uncomfortable with this. Perhaps it is just time for them to connect after a busy day, but back scratching seems like an odd thing for a mother to do with her adult son in his bed.

Perhaps it is time to suggest that some of the bonds between mother and son are trimmed back a bit to encourage his independence.
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avatarAnonymous No that is not normal. There is no way you should be tucking in a grwn man, unless he's disabled. Its time for him to grow up.
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avatardaymothax
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Really thats disturbing!!!The only, ONLY reason why you should do that is if he's autistic, he can't walk, mentally disabled.

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