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how do we get our son to talk more about his girl friend.

We ask thinks like how is your girl friend ? or what did you do together today and we get, ok.. things,hung out and so on ...

Question applies to ages: 15, 16, 17, 18

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# of Thumbs Up Received (0)		 The next time that your son responds to your questions with one word answers, tell him that you are very interested in what happens in his life, no matter how routine or boring it might seem to him.
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Top 5 in: Choosing College, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Summer Learning and Camps, Teens and Jobs, Transitions and Readiness, Motivating StudentsTop 5 in 16 Topics		 I was flipping through a magazine and came across on article on parents and teens and one thing it said was "don't ask your teen a lot of questions. To them, it feels like an inquisition." You think you're being conversation, he thinks you're being nosy.

I have three teenage boys, and from my experience, they are not especially communicative creatures. I find I can get a little more chat out of them if we're simply doing things together, like watching a TV show, or fixing dinner, or going somewhere in the car. Just be generally interested and he may open up to you, while a direct question might turn him off.

The other thing you might do is invite the girlfriend over to your house for a family event-- movie and pizza night, backyard cookout, pitch in with the family garage sale, etc. That way, you'll get a chance to interact with her yourself, and she will probably be more communicative than your son.

I posed your questions to my older boys. My 18 year old says, "Unless you have a reason to suspect that they're doing something they shouldn't, just leave them alone." My 16 year old looked at me and said, "I dunno." See, you're not alone.

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mom of three teenage boys who grunt a lot, and a 6 year old girl who never stops talking
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