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my sons mom wants to party instead of have a family what can i do to change that?

my ex and i have a 2 year old son togeather. i am a full time student and i havent had a job for a while. my ex left because she wants to go out all the time and she doesnt want to have to work and pay bills. ive tried explaining to her that its going to be hard to get by while im in school. but she always started fights over the fact that she thinks i never do anything fun and she thinks im lazy because i dont have a job. so she left and she parties constantly and she has told me she doesnt want anything to do with me or our son. how can i get her to realize what shes doing before its too late?

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avatarJenny.eduguide
# of Thumbs Up Received (76)		 It sounds to me that both you and your ex thinks the other is right. No one wins when neither person is willing to see the other person's side.

From what I see, you are someone very committed to making something of yourself and making a better life for your family. Perhaps that goal is just too far in the future for her to see clearly.

Based on my experience, there is no way you can convince your ex to have anything to do with her son. If she thinks partying is more important, then that's what she'll do. To further try and involve her only to have your son see that mommy gets angry when you talk about him, won't help anyone.

The best thing you can do is make life as great for that little boy as possible and show him all the love you can. Make sure he knows that his mom loves him, even if she isn't the one telling him that. He'll find out soon enough what kind of person she really is and do you honestly want to be the one who reveals that to him?
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