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my daughter started college and thinks I interfere or nag when it comes to doing assignments

She leaves everything to the last minute and I worry that she won't do well. Should I just butt out and let her make her own mistakes?

Question applies to ages: 18

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avatarLizInHolt
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Top 5 in: Career Training, Choosing College, Depression and Mental Health, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Health and Wellness, Home Learning and Field Trips, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Setting Goals and Getting Motivated, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Students' Civil RightsTop 5 in 18 Topics		 Your question kind of implies the answer -- she's 18, and she's in college, and it's overdue for her to learn consequences of her actions. So don't put the 'monkey' on your back of nagging her to do class work. Either she will or she won't, and if she doesn't she'll flunk the class. If you're paying for her education, perhaps make it clear that she'll have to pay for any class she has to re-take. There are many successful people who are deadline-driven and wait til the last minute to do things but yet, do good work. So I'd say make the consequences known and stick with it, and then let her work in her own style, but be ready to give advice if asked!
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avatarJenny.eduguide
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Financial Aid for College, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Study Skills and Academic StrategiesTop 5 in 12 Topics		 Here's the real question: are you helping to pay for her education? If so, I'd say you have every right to want to know how her school work is going. If she's paying her own way, either by hard work or scholarship, I think it's time to give her some space. As much as we hate it, being 18 makes our children adults in the eyes of the law.

If she comes to you for help, then help to your heart's content. Otherwise, all you can do is cringe as you watch her make all those mistakes that you know she could avoid.

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Mother of a soon-to-be "off on her own" 16-year-old
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