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avatar Anonymous

Child learning thier sexuality/body parts

My daughter is 10, recently my husband found on her cell phone some disturbing picture's she had taken of herself. The picture's she took where of her genitals & chest. I say they're disturbing because I guess I had this idea of children not thinking that way nor capable enough of taking picture's of themselves naked & of their body parts. What was even more disturbing to me was she had a video of herself trying to put her boob into her mouth. My daughter is a bit chubby so she has some bumps due to her chubbiness so I have her wear sports bras which is sufficient for right now. When my husband showed me what he had discovered; I immediately went into action & spoke to her about why/what made her do that, where she learned it from and started talking to her about how little girls like her do not do that kind of thing to themselves etc. I then spoke to her about the birds & bee's and all she could tell me was that she was curious as to how they looked & as far as the video was concerned she didn't know why she did it. I asked her if she was being touched by anyone at school, home, the boys & girls club she goes to etc, and she told me no. I'm confused & wonder if there's more I should do to get into her brain?!? I'm confused, I'm bothered by it, and I'm wondering if I should take her to psychiatrist? Any thoughts, opinions, anyone have this happen to them?

Question applies to ages: 10

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Top 5 in: Discipline, Transitions and Readiness, Motivating StudentsTop 5 in 3 Topics		 I think you're off to a great start by talking to your daughter in a straightforward manner about the situation.

Next, I would do some investigation to find out where she might have gotten ideas like this. I have a nearly 10-year-old daughter too, and I've seen a wide range of sexual awareness in her friends, from the very innocent to the other end of the spectrum. I've noticed that girls with older sibs have more mature ideas about sexuality than others. I've also noticed that girls who have TVs and computers in their bedrooms have more opportunity to come across all sorts of X-rated behavior on cable channels and the internet. I know parents who think YouTube is a perfectly safe place for all ages because it offers cute-and-funny videos. But it also offers thousands of sexually explicit videos that are an easy click away from those innocent clips.

So my advice is to monitor your daughter's TV and internet use very carefully and keep tabs on what her friends are watching and talking about as well. Talk with her friends' moms too--you can be a strong team working together toward raising strong, safe daughters.

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