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what can I do when I get stressed over my 3month olds crying?

I am needing advice so I can be abetter more loving parent and provide a good safe home for my little girl.

Question applies to ages: 3

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avatarLiz
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Safety # of Thumbs Up Received (1)		 It's really hard to hear your baby crying. First of all, keep taking deep breaths to calm yourself. It's difficult to calm an infant when you, yourself, aren't feeling calm. Babies pick up on our body's tension and stress in our voices.

If her crying goes on for hours, make sure you have her pediatrician give her a thorough check-up with that in mind, to rule out any physical cause.

A couple of tricks I've used with trying to comfort a crying baby are: "Rocking" them while holding them, almost swinging them from side to side while the baby is in your arms. Make a repetitive sound while doing that, a sound that seems soft, lulling, and calm.

Many parents have discovered that putting the baby in the car seat and driving around the block a time or two is all that it takes to make the baby fall asleep.

You've probably discovered by now if there is a particular position that your daughter likes most -- cuddled up under your chin, or nestled against your chest, or whatever. Use that while you walk around, gently bouncing her. Again, the repetition sometimes helps, all by itself.

She may be crying because she's hungry, even if she was just fed a short time ago. Try feeding her again, even if it doesn't seem like she could possibly be hungry.

Good luck. You're trying to do the right thing for her, and are being a caring mom!

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avatarBridgette
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Growth and Development, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and SchoolsTop 5 in 7 Topics		 Liz gave excellent advice.

One thing I would add is that sometimes it is good to take a quick walk. Make sure your baby is safely in a crib or somewhere she can't hurt herself and then step outside into the yard where you can't hear the crying and give yourself five minutes to calm down.

Also, don't beat yourself up for the stress you feel. Some of it is biology. Our bodies are designed so that when we hear our baby cry, we get a small rush of adrenalin and our blood pressure rises a small amount. We're designed that way so that we'll respond to a baby's cries. So use that adrenalin to help your child when you can, but if you feel yourself losing control because of the stress, then step away until the adrenalin wears off and your blood pressure wears off again.

Then smile (smiling also releases chemicals that can put us in a better mood) and go back to that little girl you love so much and tend to her needs.
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