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my son is 5 and he was caught with another girl -she had her pants down



Question applies to ages: 5, 6

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avatarElizabeth.Johns
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Top 5 in: Choosing College, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Family Activities, Growth and Development, Health and Wellness, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Study Skills and Academics, Summer Learning and Camps, Teens and Jobs, Transitions and Readiness, Motivating StudentsTop 5 in 16 Topics		 5 and 6 year old children are curious beings and that includes figuring out just how boys and girls are different. EduGuide has this article by noted pediatrician T. Berry Brazelton on this very topic: Relationships-and-Sexuality-Why-Is-My-Child-So-Cur

I would recommend that you don't freak out over the incident and also that you not shame or make your son feel bad about what was happening. Reassure him that it's okay to be curious about people's bodies, but explain that it's not considered polite to look at other people's private parts, nor for him to show his to other people.

If your son is curious, you can find books at the library that help explain all about the human body at a 5 year old level. Remember, this will be one of many chats you have about bodies and sexuality and you can help set the tone for how your child views his own and other's bodies by the way you handle the conversation.

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Explain that both boys and girls have parts of their bodies that are considered private - he may not know what "private" means yet, so explain that to him. Remind him that you don't allow him to be naked in public, and that's the reason - some parts of our bodies aren't for viewing by everyone.

But don't worry that your son and his friend did this - it's perfectly normal and natural and just about every kid gets curious about the differences somewhere along the line!
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