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avatar Anonymous

child ran away from home to grandma's and grandma thinks it is okay

Grandma is trying to help and believes grandaughter's stories.

Question applies to ages: 13, 14

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avatarBridgette
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Growth and Development, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and SchoolsTop 5 in 7 Topics		 It can be so frustrating to have parenting battles in both generational directions.

On one hand, it's good that your child is somewhere safe. It's far better that she is at a relative's house than at a stranger's or on the street.

On the other hand, having people take sides can make it more difficult to get to a real resolution and help restore the family.

Since the grandmother wishes to be involved, perhaps you could ask her if she would moderate a discussion between you and your daughter. You could meet with her beforehand and explain to her what your goals are. Ask her if she would be a neutral moderator who could help make sure that both you and your daughter were able to speak and to help keep things calm. Explain also that it is important that the two of you come up with a solution--even if the grandmother knows of one that would work better.

Perhaps even better, though, would be to go in for family counseling and letting the professional talk to all three of you.

Good luck. Parenting a teenager is such a treacherous time and having one runaway can be heartbreaking.
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