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avatarryan
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Kid having trouble at the bus stop

My kid gets harassed at the bus stop on occassion from some bullies. I'm trying to think of what would be the best thing to do? Drive him to school, call the school, talk to the kids or teach my child Kung Fu.

What do you think?

Question applies to ages: 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17

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avatarCherri
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Bullying and Violence # of Thumbs Up Received (2)		 We have a "no bully" policy at our school. This includes the bus stop. I would advise the bus driver as well as the school. They can respond in such a way that it appears "they" discovered the behavior. Insist something will be done. If you are able to drive your child to school then I would drive him. Kids have enough stress without having to deal with a bully(s) at the bus stop everyday. Besides, if he used Kung Fu he would get suspended too. Shame on those kids! Luckily we reap what we sew! :)

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# of Thumbs Up Received (1)		 Talk to your child. Sometimes he would rather endure the bully than the resulting wrath of having everyone know he tattled. If it escalates into something more serious, contact the school.

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# of Thumbs Up Received (6)		 You should talk to the school about this and see what could be done. If all else fails, teach your son kung fu. It couldn't hurt.
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avatarJudy
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Bullying and Violence # of Thumbs Up Received (2)		 I'm inclined to say "all of the above" with some modifications.

First, talk to your kid. Find out what sort of bullying is going on. See if anything he is doing contributes to his status as victim. He may need some help developing social skills. This isn't always the case, but definitely was for my oldest son who was often victimized.

Second, see if there is a "defeat the bully" program in your area. This is a national program, usually provided to schools for free by karate and kung fu schools (and taught in those schools along with the martial arts). It teaches non-violent means of ending bullying. It is an excellent program which I would love to see incorporated in all schools.

Driving him to school may not be a long term option, but if you can do it for a short time, it may be enough to break the cycle.

Definitely contact the school. He may be a victim there as well.

Finally, as a mom of 3 second-degree black belts, I think all kids benefit from studying martial arts. The older 2 have had to use their skills for self-defense - one in school, the other on the streets of a strange town. The youngest hasn't yet, but all three have developed confidence, focus, poise, agility, and self-discipline.

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