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How should I handle finding out that my 19yr daughter is confused about her sexuality?



Question applies to ages: 18

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With acceptance and support. This is something she has to work out for herself and is not something you can "advise" her on. It's a terribly difficult thing for a parent to stand back and just say, "I'm here for you and love you, no matter what" when you might want to offer advice or pass judgment. But this is a totally private thing and it's terrific that she trusts you enough to have shared it with you. Don't chase her away by trying to "fix" it.
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avatarAnonymous It is important to love your daughter and to tell her that you stand ready to help her in any way she needs you to.
But it is also important to love yourself and be gentle to yourself throughout this period. No matter how understanding or accepting you are, it is still hard for a parent to watch a child (even an adult child) struggle with a major issue like sexuality. You are bound to have mixed feelings, some of them may be difficult to work through on your own. Make sure you have a close friend, a good counselor, a pastor, or mentor to talk with.

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