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how can i tell if i'm really in love with someone i've only known for 5 months?

i've known this guy for about 5 months now and i know he has a lot of drama but i still like him my parents dont like him and say he'll only get me in trouble with the law beacause he is in a gang but i feel like i really care for him and he already told me he loves me my question is am i in love with him?

Question applies to ages: 15, 16

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avatarLizInHolt
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Top 5 in: Career Training, Choosing College, Depression and Mental Health, Discipline, Families and Relationships, Health and Wellness, Home Learning and Field Trips, Learning Disabilities and Special Needs, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and Schools, Safety, School Policy and Education Issues, Setting Goals and Getting Motivated, Study Skills and Academics, Transitions and Readiness, Students' Civil RightsTop 5 in 18 Topics		 If you have to ask, then you're not! Seriously, it's really REALLY rare for a high-school couple to stay together beyond high school so "love" is probably too strong a word for it, anyhow. If he's in a gang, you can't avoid being affected by the stuff he does which could end up getting you in trouble and a bad rep.
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avatarBridgette
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Top 5 in: Discipline, Families and Relationships, Growth and Development, Learning Styles, Manners and Values, Parenting Support, Parents and SchoolsTop 5 in 7 Topics		 I'm one of those really rare people who married my high school sweetheart and nearly 29 years later still feels like she's a newlywed.

HOWEVER (and that is purposely in all caps), had we married right out of high school, I doubt we'd still be married today. We had a great deal of passion for each other, but we weren't ready for any sort of long-term relationship. It was two years before we ever said "I love you" to each other and seven before we married.

The years from 16 to 23 are filled with such major changes. You might be the same person at 23 that you are at 16, but it's not very likely. Nor is it likely that he will still be the same person. No matter how mature you are right now, you'll still do a lot of growing and changing during those years.

Are you in love? That's something that only time will answer. And, as unromantic as it sounds, a relationship that is healthy and happy will require more than love. It will also require that the two people in it share values and goals. Do you share values with him? Do the two of you want to get the same things out of life? Even if you're not thinking about long-term relationships right now, what about for the next two years? Five years? Do the two of you share common goals for that time period?

If you don't, love may not be enough.
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avatarvonnypooh16/shavonne
# of Thumbs Up Received (4)		 I know sometimes in high school you feel like ur in love but, you also have to think about your future. like how would he look in your future with you,do he wants something out of life, and how does he treat you and just know that love is more than just sex.
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avatarAnonymous Go on youtube and look up Jason Evert. I know a sex talk sounds totally unrelated, and totally boring, and just plain stupid, but give him a chance. He says some good stuff on this topic, and alog of it is really inspiring. Also, think about this: would you ever want this guy to be raising your kids someday? There's a difference between Love and being IN love. Being in love is more blinded, live for the moment, and can be beautiful, but if there's no real love behind it: wanting what's best for the person, knowing they want the same for you, and sharing it with someone who will MAKE YOU THE BEST YOU CAN BE, then it's empty. If you're asking this, you already know the answer, and just want someone to prove you wrong. I'm sorry, but I don't think you should risk ruining your own life because you care alot for someone at this moment.
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