It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Even the most level-headed parents lose their cool once in awhile. And although every day as a parent is challenging, some days are more challenging than others.
Try these strategies for dealing with some of those especially stressful times:
- Communicate with your children. Even the youngest child can sense a change in stress levels. Whether your child is 2 or 12, let him know that you're having a tough time. Without raising your voice, explain to him that you have locked your keys in the car, broken the heel off your favorite shoe or had a terrible day at work. Chances are, your child will sympathize and stay out of your hair. Howard Phillips of Colorado Springs, Colorado, says, "When I told my daughter that I was having a tough day, she went upstairs to make me a card. I used the time alone to clear my head, and when she gave me the card, I was reminded of the joy that she brings to my life."
- Learn to say "no." Although saying no to one's children is sometimes necessary, it may be better at times to say no to events that will stress you out even more. Consider it preventative medicine. There is no reason why the preschool can't find someone else to organize their bake sale. And hosting a birthday party the same day as your child's soccer tournament is a disaster waiting to happen.
- If you do lose your cool with your kids, don't be afraid to say, "I'm sorry." We all feel guilty after we yell at our children, but it is important to realize how our words and actions are received. They probably caused hurt and embarrassment, so it is important to say "I'm sorry" when you mean it. Offer a hug and kiss with your apology, and let your child know that he or she is still loved. And although not every situation will be handled with grace and wisdom, acknowledging your own weaknesses is the first step to gaining control.
Tips provided by Wendy Burt, of Colorado Springs, Colorado.