Here are some adolescent parenting steps you can take today to help your kids withstand peer pressure and communicate respect at school:
Teaching Character
Remain consistent to a set of values that are important to you. Consistency doesn't mean just preaching--children determine what are values based more on what you do than what you say.
What Are Values? Talk About Them
Know your own standards and discuss them with your children. Don't rely only on school, church, or television for teaching character or moral values.
Respond Calmly to Tantrums in Children
Don't overreact to disobedience. Taking tantrums in children personally may cause you to lose control rather than provide a source of security for a child who feels out of control himself.
Parent's Discipline is More than Punishment
Remember that punishment is just one facet of a parent's discipline, just as diet is one facet of health. It has a place, but must be used wisely when you are calm. When a child disobeys, first use loving guidance--teach what he has done wrong and point him toward what he should do instead. "You may not throw the toy; you may throw the ball over here."
Be Honest About Your Emotions
When you have a bad day, admit to being frustrated, tired, or angry. Show your child that emotions are a normal part of being human and we can learn to control them.
Expect Anger in Children
Don't feel guilty. Children may be frustrated by limits and say things they don't mean--even the horrible "I hate you!" words. You are the adult. Let them know you love them, no matter what, and you are confident in your own actions. They will learn to have confidence in you as well.