When your child misbehaves, a parent's discipline can be creative. Why not serve up a "sandwich of love"?

  1. The bottom slice of bread is a genuine compliment. 
  2. The meat of the sandwich is a statement regarding the unacceptable behavior. Wait patiently for the child's response, to make sure she understands. 
  3. The top slice is a reminder of your love and teaches your kids manners as well.

A Scenario

Your eight-year old loses patience with his three-year old sister who always wants to play with his toys. Finally, he hits her and says "Go away."

How to Serve Up the Sandwich

Here's what you could say to your eight-year old, after you've consoled your crying daughter.

  1. Remember yesterday when you shared your ice cream with your sister? That was really nice.
  2. I know you were frustrated, but hitting and yelling at people is not appropriate. You cannot hit your sister or anyone else. There are better ways to solve problems. Do you understand? (Pause) What could you have done instead? (Pause for child's answer)
  3. That's a very good idea. Next time, try that instead of hitting and yelling. I love you very much. (Hugs) Are you ready to apologize? (Pause for apology) Good. (another hug)