Nothing can unglue a new parent faster than a baby who won't stop crying. Sometimes it seems like your baby cries just to drive you crazy. But during the first few weeks, he can't control when he cries. He cries because he needs help, and he won't stop until those needs are met, or he's too tired to go on.

You Know All Those Cries Mean Something -- But What?

  • Hunger -- Newborn babies eat a lot more often than you expect, especially if they are small or if you are breastfeeding. Some babies eat as much as once an hour, especially during their most active times of day.
  • Wet or soiled diapers -- You wouldn't like it; why should they?
  • Pain or discomfort -- Babies can't move a lumpy blanket or shift positions. Check to see if they are being poked or hurt in any way.
  • Cold or hot -- Dress your baby as you would yourself, or maybe a bit warmer. You can tell if he's too warm or cool by feeling the skin on his back or tummy.
  • Lonely -- Hey, life in the womb was pretty safe. Imagine how it must feel to be suddenly all alone. Most experts say you won't spoil a baby by holding her whenever she's lonely. In fact, it can do you both a world of good. After about 6 weeks or so, just meeting her eyes and talking a little can stop the crying if she's lonely.
  • Under-stimulated -- Your baby can be just plain bored. Try putting his chair in new places or let him sit in on the dinner conversation. Try hanging new toys just at the edge of reach above his crib or chair.
  • Over-stimulated -- Even babies who like lots of motion and noise need calm and quiet some of the time. Rock her for awhile in a cool, quiet room.
  • Fear -- Loud noises, quick motion or unsettling sights can startle a baby. Wrapping her up and holding her close may help.
  • Tired -- Sometimes babies just need to cry before they fall asleep. Leaving them alone can be the best thing. Don't wait until he cries himself into a frenzy, though. If he doesn't calm and fall asleep within about 15 minutes, try something new.

 

 

Source: Parenting the First Year, Month 1. University of Wisconsin Cooperative Extension Publications, 1999