It’s tough to talk about topics related to female or male body image, especially with a teenager. Whether you are concerned with your child’s weight, skin, personal hygiene, or choice of dress, here are some ideas for getting your teen moving toward good health without causing additional stress. Remember: your teen’s goals—and yours—should prize good health over good looks.
  • Be a sounding board. Your teen’s preoccupation with his or her body image won’t last forever. But during the most intense time, offer support by simply listening to your child’s concerns. You may not agree, but you can help by simply listening without judging.
  • Show concern. If you’re worried about your teen’s physical health, approach him or her in a nonthreatening manner. Don’t accuse—simply point out the reasons you are concerned.
  • Take EduGuide’s “How Healthy Is My Teen?” and “Does My Teen Have a Positive Body Image?” quizzes. Share your answers with your teen and discuss any areas of disagreement. (Coming soon!)
  • Offer suggestions. Before you talk to your child, make a list of suggestions for improving his or her overall personal health and wellness. Ideas may include healthful eating tips, visiting a doctor (if your teen has acne), or shopping for clothing together.
  • Be positive. Point out some of your teen’s good qualities before saying anything about making changes. For instance, compliment a hairstyle or outfit before saying anything about skin or weight problems. To improve self-esteem, have your teen tell you three positive things about him- or herself every day.
  • Don’t compare. It’s hard to watch other kids develop before yours does, but avoid comparing your teen to others the same age. The more concerned you become about differences, the more worried your teen will get.
  • Encourage new activities. Help your teen get involved in volunteer work, music, sports, or theater. The stage is a great place for kids to learn to leave their self-consciousness behind. Check with your child’s school or a community theater group.
  • Exercise together. Take turns picking the form of exercise and be upbeat about the choice, even if it isn’t your favorite.
  • Cook together. Let your teen assist in the kitchen. As well as learning new skills, cooking can help your child take ownership of something he or she is trying to accomplish.
  • Focus on good health. Avoid talking about your teen’s appearance; instead, focus on health. Give suggestions for staying healthy, such as eating right, exercising in moderation, and keeping clean.
  • Talk about how people make changes in their lives. Make a list of personal qualities people can change and those that they can’t change, like height, bone structure, and shoe size. Help your teen set goals for making one or two changes over the coming weeks and months, such as getting in better shape or making healthful lunches to bring to school.
  • Be patient. Yelling at your teen as he or she is getting ready for school in the morning can ruin everyone’s day. Give your child a few extra minutes to get ready for school without losing your temper.